You may not like getting feedback from people. It may be hard to hear what others think of you. It may be hard to hear what other people see you doing.
Yet if people can share with you information about what they see you doing (in addition to just their judgments or interpretations of what they feel inside of themselves as a reaction to what you are doing or saying), then you can use that feedback to (1) act differently, so that you can be more effective with the people who you deal with.
Or (2) you can use it as an exercise in allowing other people to take care of themselves, because you're doing something you believe in and want to keep doing what you're doing even if other people don't like it or don't think it's the right way to do things.
Just realize that there are 2 sides of the story and that you must also have a healthy enough sense of self that you can allow other people to have an experience of you that is not necessarily a positive one, but that you'll still feel okay about yourself anyway. And that you must have a healthy enough sense of self that you can take feedback from others and use it to improve what you are doing, if it seems like effective and accurate information (to you) about how to do things better.
People can be wrong. And you can agree to disagree.
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