Why can’t we all just accept each other as we are?
The reason why we all can’t just accept each other as we are is because in order to genuinely accept what we don’t like in other people, we must first have accepted that same thing inside of ourselves.
(And most of us haven’t looked that far into ourselves to even know what is really driving our biggest fears and limitations.)
Here’s what I mean and how it works—
I’ll use an example from my own experience to try and make this clear.
So over the years of looking for solutions to my fear and anxiety, I have tried many remedies, techniques and approaches.
I have done yoga and meditation.
I have worked with psychics.
I have had people hypnotize me.
I have uncovered and reframed many of my limiting beliefs.
I have taken supplements.
I have tried many things without knowing if they would “work” or not. I took many leaps of faith.
But I was desperate for a solution, so I decided that I would not judge anything until I had at least experienced it for myself first.
I tried to keep an open mind to anything that might help, even if the technique made no logical sense to my brain and even if I felt like I wasn’t really “getting it”.
And so, obviously, along the way I found myself judging certain techniques and the people using them as “weird”.
Sometimes…or even many times, (I admit), I thought people were weird.
Perhaps they were talking about spirits that I could not see.
Or they were talking about energy that I could not feel.
Or they were talking about ideas that I did not understand.
But I would be lying to you if I said that I never thought to myself: “This person seems a little crazy.”
But do you want to know what the truth of it is?
The truth of it is that I would never want someone to think of me as a little crazy!!!
The thing I feared most was that someone would think these kinds of things about me.
And that’s why I saw it so quickly in others.
And do know what else?
I had not accepted in myself (and so would see it so quickly in others) that many things I do might seem weird to people.
Or that things I believe in seem silly to someone who does not see it my way.
Or that I can feel things that others cannot.
Or that I have a strange family.
Or that what I deeply value and cherish and think seems really stupid to someone else.
Maybe weird or strange or silly are not a words you’ve used to describe your own life, but I guarantee you that if you are feeling anxious or lacking in self-confidence, then there is stuff about you that you don’t think is quite right about YOU or stuff that you think is not quite impressive enough or stuff that you think others will judge you negatively for.
So if you want more self-confidence, then find those things that are really truly driving your anxiety and your fear by looking at what you most judge in others. For there you will find your self! And what you most fear other people judging in YOU.
Take a minute now.
What are things that people do that you think are silly? Or stupid?
What do you think people do that is a waste of time?
Who do you think is kind of crazy?
Now what don’t you like about those people/things?
How would you feel is someone described you the way that you just described those people/things?
What about you, things you believe in or things you enjoy doing, can be described like that by other people who don’t feel the same way?
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