How are you defining the self confidence you seek?

             Confidence looks...

shiny     bold      glamorous       precise      packaged      cool      performing      impressive achieving      polished     loud            superior         distant   perfect smooth     slick     stylish                 motivated   sophisticated    showy      rehearsed   good looking   hard     cold    superficial fitting in  unavailable

            ...or does confidence look...

willing      human    accessible       organic      grounded  quiet     open    nurturing   non-judgmental       generous  vulnerable    curious   peaceful  harmonious   real    spiritual     accepting     patient     authentic  raw       imperfect    holistic    embracing     simple  loving

Is your definition of self confidence one that tries to look good on the outside, meet external expectations and impress others? 

Or is your definition of self confidence one that allows you to love who you are in this world?  Not have to perform?  But to show up as you are?

Is your definition helpful and healing to you?  Or is it further denying your uniqueness and sacred human beauty (inside and out) and having you work harder and harder to try to meet external standards of what your self confidence should look like?

Comments

[leila v]

Nice site! With a topic that definitely hits home.

Consciously, I know confidence comes from self acceptance and not external forces such as the approval of others. However, in social situations I can't help but fall into that trap.

[Mark]

Great topic and great site. I joined your community at mybloglog. Self-approval must come from within as it is fleeting if it is externalized. I wrote an article recently called, 'Is it conceited to love yourself' which touches on this (I won't post a link incase you don't like that). Anyway, keep up the good work and stay confident!
Mark McManus

[Aimee]

I love your blog. It is very inspirational for me. Do you plan to post any new material sometime in the future? I hope all is well!
Aimee

[fitline]

the way you write i can say u have achieved a lot in life and ya still have the eyes in the seventh heaven

[Posix]

Hi! nice site

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